Why do we live in a world that is so fixated on lists and ranking things? We number everything. There's the first dance, first kiss, number one movie, most popular in school, best school, best neighborhood, and so on.
Is it possible to believe that adoption can be someones first choice?, instead of believing that a couple MUST be infertile, and therefore adoption must be a second choice?.Because clearly ( being sarcastic here), biological children would be first choice, followed by children that "look like your family", third choice would be children from the same country,and finally if you just have to have children the last resort would be to adopt from another country. This is crazy really, why can't people let other people live their lives the way that they choose, no matter what that choice is.
People are funny when it comes to accepting/thinking of adoption as a family choice. They say things like "don't worry, as soon as you adopt you'll get pregnant and then you'll have two babies!"(because clearly two is better than one)or they say "If you think you can have your own, why would you adopt?"(because clearly my adopted child won't be my "own")
I think we need to be proud of wanting to be parents, and choosing to be parents, instead of focusing on the way we become parents. Deciding to adopt a baby is about choosing to start a family, it's not about being infertile and choosing the "second best" option.
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AMEN..when we were waiting for our referral for our daughter 2 years ago people would say "now you'll get pregnant" I would always look horrified and say "oh, I hope not!!!" And I meant it.. Annslee is perfect for our family and our next child will be too.
Laura
www.thegrowingwarehouse.blogspot.com
Amen.
Tell it how it is! You go!
Agreed 10000% Many families choose to adopt, people don't understand that. I tell people, We choose to adopt to start our family. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't.
amen to that. Upon hearing that we are adopting, the first question most people ask us is "Why can't you have children of your own?" Second runner up "Once you adopt, you will get pregnant, it happens all the time." I have answered with "This is how we have chosen to become parents." But that usually leads to confusion on the part of the questioner: "Why?" I am tempted to answer "Just because, that's why" but that hardly helps. ha.
Very well put. I think no matter the reason for choosing to adopt it shouldn't be questioned why and is by far from "second best."
Great post! ITA!
I think you made a wonderful choice in choosing adoption. And it is all about what you and Gavin want, not what everyone thinks you should do. You have so much love to give Ange. Your baby will be so blessed to have parents like you and Gavin.
Well said. I never planned, dreamed, hoped to have a bio baby. That was never of interest to me. (you mean women actually choose to go thru the torture of childbirth??) And now that I'm in my (urmmm) early 40's, people just naturally assume i waited too long and now i'm too old. Huh? What about Plan A -- wait til i'm mature and then adopt a child! People just cannot see beyond their own myopic viewpoints.
Amen to that!!!
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